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Ready to get REVITALIZED in 2015?

Happy New Year! Or Happy Tabula Rasa Day as I like to say! :)

Tabula rasa is a Latin phrase that means "blank slate" or "erased slate". Which means we can start fresh, clean and clear as we look to the New Year. Woo hoo!

There are many techniques to help you step into the New Year with intention. I've tried many of them over the years including choosing a word for the year, setting S.M.A.R.T. goals, creating a vision board (I've always done it with magazines and collaging, but now people are using Pinterest!) and journaling.

As 2015 begins, I am very excited about my personal word for the year - REVITALIZE!

To revitalize means "to give new life to".

So I've got three questions for you to noodle on today...

1. What areas of your business and life do you want to revitalize in 2015?

2. Why does it matter? How will it change your life?

3. How do you plan to set about doing this?

(In case you hadn't noticed, I've rebranded my business and website to reflect my new direction - the Revitalized Business Woman! I'll be writing more about that here in the coming weeks.)

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You can use this as a guide for your journaling and contemplating just how you want your 2015 to look!

Happy New Year! May 2015 bring love, joy, growth, adventure, laughter, prosperity and good health to us all!



5 Reasons Why You Should Practice Self Care...

Today, I want to talk about the 5 Reasons Why You Should Practice Self Care. I know, I know, the word "should" isn't typically in my vocabulary either... but the reality is, Self Care is a should! It's a must! It's an absolute necessity! If you want to lead a happy, healthy, loving, balanced, joy-filled life, that is. If not, no worries. You can stop reading now. But if you do want a Delightfully Whole life, then read on...

1. Your children are watching. Did you ever hear "Do as I say, not as I do!" as a kid? I sure did. But you know what rings even more true for me? The notion that actions speak louder than words. If you value yourself and make efforts to take care of yourself, your children will learn to value themselves, too. Do you want to teach your kids the values of overwork, sacrifice and burnout or do you want to teach them balance, joy and self-responsibility? 

2. You will be a nicer person to be around. Think about it...if you work too many hours, don't get enough sleep, eat at fast food restaurants, are hyped up on coffee and constantly on the go, you are not a very nice person. Irritable, cranky, short-tempered with very little patience. (Surely I'm not the only one who gets this way?) But when you get plenty of sleep, eat healthy foods, balance work and play and carve out some down time for a walk, reading and/or time with loved ones, you're a pretty happy person. Fun to be around, enjoying your life. That's attractive to your friends, your loved ones and your colleagues. It's a win-win!

3. You will be healthier. If you take care of your mind, body and spirit, you will decrease your stress and increase your happiness which has a positive effect on your health. If you make conscious choices to practice self-loving acts, you will make healthier choices in general. It may be great to pig out on pizza and chocolate cake on occasion, but if you do it too often, your body feels terrible, right? If you choose instead to eat healthy proteins and lots of veggies with maybe some fruit for dessert (oh, ok, maybe a bit of a chocolate truffle!), your body feels light, energetic and ready to rock-n-roll! The more you make healthy choices, the better you feel, the more you'll want to make healthy choices. It's an upward spiral of health and happiness!

4. You will be more productive. A well-rested, well-fueled body is a clear minded one. When you are clear minded, you can focus on the tasks at hand, accomplish more in a shorter period and feel good about all the items you check off your to-do list. If you are more productive with work and chores, you'll have more free time for fun, family and... oh yeah... more self care. Wahoo!

5. God wants you to. I believe that God/Creator/Spirit put us on this Earth to enjoy life, to learn and to grow. Part of that comes from space, rest and time to BE. Spending time with loved ones is critical as is meditating, praying and strengthening our connection with Spirit. The more we are in touch with our spiritual lives, the quieter we get and then we are able to hear that small, still voice inside that is oh so wise and can guide us on when to rest, slow down and enjoy life a bit more.

Inspired Action: Be honest with yourself. Are you practicing self-care at all? As well as you could be? If not, then I'd love to help. Join the community of women that is forming for the Smart Self Care E-course which starts Monday September 22nd. You'll get inspired, get support and get started on your journey to self care right away!


The 3 Reasons You Don't Practice Self-Care 

When I talk to women about self-care, invariably what I hear are excuses. Some of them are legitimate... and most of them are not. "I don't have time", "I can't afford it", "My family is more important" or "My work is more important". The list goes on. What I know to be true is that the excuses are based in some root beliefs.

1. You truly believe you don't have enough time. This is because the assumption you are making is that self-care requires a lot of time and that, I believe, you really don't have. I have a busy life, too. I get it. But self-care can happen in minutes. It can be as easy as saying "no" to a project you really don't want to do but feel that you "should". (You freed up time there). It can look like taking your lunch to work and sitting outside on a park bench to eat it, enjoying the flowers and listening to the birds. (You gained some mental clarity so you could be more efficient in the afternoon). It can look like asking your partner to put the kids to bed so you can have thirty minutes of decompress time (Bought yourself some transition time from kids and dinner to evening wind-down and precious partner time). It can look a hundred different ways. But you really do have enough time. You just have to find it and claim it.

2. You don't have any clue of where to start. This one is soooooooo common. I believe it's because we didn't learn it from our parents and in particular, our mothers. I don't know about you, but my mom only went away once in my childhood, to my cousin's wedding, and she missed me and my Dad so much, she cut her trip short and came home a day early. When my parents celebrated their anniversary, they took me out to dinner with them. I don't ever recall my mom having lunch with a friend and she certainly never got a massage or a manicure. Her focus was family, family, family and when she returned to work, work and family. As a result, I never learned how to practice self-care because I didn't see it modeled for me at home so I spent most of my 20s working hard on everything else in my life that I thought mattered - everything except for me. When I became a coach at age 30, I learned it from other mentors, teachers and role models in my life and now that I'm raising my own daughter, I intend to model it for her so that she grows up knowing that she deserves to take some time just for her. Which brings me to the next point...

3. You don't think you're worthy or deserving of some self-love and self-nurturing. I think for so many women this is the root issue. Somewhere along the way you may have heard messages that led you to believe that you were less than or not good enough. So when you grew up, went to college, became an adult, you developed a need to achieve, a passion to please, the desire to succeed. It is often couched in "how can I be of service to the world?" but it's often hiding the fact that you really don't think you deserve to take care of yourself so you keep going, going, going, doing, doing, doing until there's nothing left but fumes. I promise you, you are worthy, you are deserving and you are lovable... just because you are uniquely and wonderfully you.

"The practice of Extreme Self Care forces us to make choices and decisions that honor and reflect the true nature of our soul. While the whole notion of this might seem selfish or self-centered, doing so actually allows us to make our greatest contribution to the world. “ – Cheryl Richardson, The Art of Extreme Self Care

Amen, Cheryl! I heard her speak at an ICF Conference about 10 years ago and I've been following her work ever since. I love her books (I own four of them!) and so agree with this statement. Self care allows you to make your best contributions to the world because you can show up more fully whole and real and alive. Stay tuned for tomorrow's blog post that will address the 5 Reasons Why You Should Practice Self Care.

In the mean time, you may want to take a peek at my Smart Self Care for Busy Women e-course. It starts in just 5 days. It may be time to stop making excuses and start realizing your worth. This four week class may be just the ticket to help you on your journey...